In no way did I 'go off' on the server (I never would). I can see how my wording may have made it sound otherwise. I asked if I could speak with them and calmly explained why the excessive gendering had been harmful and suggested that they reconsider it in the future. We still tipped well. I will also point out that I intentionally never gendered the server in my post. I have edited the "Not Queer Friendly" to more accurately reflect my personal experience with the lack of queer friendliness. The gendering was truly excessive in a way I have never experienced before or since and, again, it would have bothered me even if I did identify as female.